Freedom to fly to a land far, far away (aka what Conscious Healing is All About)
During the last week, I have had an opportunity to be in a great place with amazing people. Unfortunately for me, at the same time, my husband needed to fly to a land far, far away ✈️.
I soooo wanted to go to my thing, that I have even set an intention, in the highest good of all concerned, to be able to go (down-to-earth translation: hoping for my husband NOT to get a visa to the land far, far away 😎)
So a week ago, instead of being on an amazing journey 🚁, I found myself staying home with my 3 kids, being a sole caretaker, shoulder to cry on (which has been used extensively), conflict resolution manager (used even more extensively), chauffeur, cleaning lady, cook, washing machine repairer, entertainer, scheduler, teacher, and to be honest, the list can go on and on and on.
On a side note: I am also an entrepreneur running my own business 😱.
Man, that’s a tough cookie 🍪. In general, staying alone with three kids for over a week is not an easy task. Additionally, truly wishing to be able to be somewhere else, where you know you’d be having a wonderful time, doesn’t help. It’s not like something really bad was happening to me, it’s more like my sense of freedom to do what I really want to be doing, did not seem to be present. And not everyone enjoys feeling as if they’re having their freedom taken away 🤷♀️.
I’ll be honest with you, in the past, I would be pissed off in this situation 👿. I would be pissed off with my husband. I would be pissed of with the circumstances. I would be easily losing my patience with my kids, who believe you me, give me plenty of opportunities to exercise my ability to stay calm. And most of all, I would be pissed off with myself. Because after all, I am the one responsible for my own life, ain’t that true?
To make it very clear, it wouldn’t be a nice place to be me, my husband or my kids 🙅♀️. I would delve into resentment and self-pity exchanged with regular beating myself up for feeling this way over such a small thing.
Having an easily accessible choice of not having to go to that place and that energy, is a true blessing. For me. For my husband. For my children. 😇
FREE WILL CHOICE
Free will choice is what helps me so much in this situation. A deep realization that I don’t have to stay at home with my children, is truly empowering. No-one has tied me to the heater, I really do have a free will choice to walk out that door and go wherever I’d like to go. I am the one choosing to stay home and be with my children. Every day. 🚀
RESPONSIBILITY OR ABILITY TO RESPOND
Let’s talk about responsibility for emotions, actions and reactions. Not only do I have a free will choice to walk out that door, but I am also the only one who has a responsibility, meaning an “ability to respond” to that situation. Yes, I can respond with resentment and self-pity, or I can choose to respond with curiosity and gratitude. ☔️
Having easy access to responding with curiosity and gratitude is a true blessing. 😇
WHY IS THAT HAPPENING?
I can ask myself a question: why is it happening to me? Or I can choose to ask myself:
Why is it happening for me?
As you can probably see, the first version of the question can be really helpful in sending you to a place of self-pity and disempowerment.
The latter version opens the gate to curiosity and gratitude 🧘🏻♀️.
And after the week has passed, I can see exactly: Why is that happening for me…
… I have been able to truly help 5 people through profound conversations, those impactful ones that have an ability to change lives.
… I have been able to dive into my very own very first big creative project ever and make huge progress.
… I have been able to experience that I can go through such a situation with no negative impact on my relationship with my husband, my children and myself.
… I have been able to see that I can feel good in my everyday life with me and my children. I don’t need to travel somewhere else and be with other people to have that experience.
… I have been able to use gratitude every day to help me see why is that happening for me.
I could actually continue finding more and more amazing things that have been happening for me.
💁♀️In a nutshell that’s what Conscious Healing is all about… find yourself and your freedom wherever you are (at least that’s a big part of it 💗)
Whenever you are ready to create this kind of a change in your life, send me a message 📥.